Can You Still Get STIs If You’re in a Same-Gender Relationship?

There’s a common myth that sexually transmitted infections (STIs) only affect people in heterosexual relationships, but that’s simply not true.
Anyone, regardless of gender or sexuality, can get an STI if they’re sexually active.

Talking openly about sexual health in same-gender relationships matters, because too often, these conversations go unspoken.

STIs Don’t Discriminate

STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhoea, herpes, syphilis, and HPV can affect anyone who’s sexually active, no matter who they have sex with.
Transmission can happen through:

Oral sex
Anal sex
Sharing sex toys
Skin-to-skin contact
Contact with infected bodily fluids

Even if pregnancy isn’t a concern, safer sex is still important.

Some STIs Are More Common in Certain Communities

Research shows that some infections, such as syphilis or gonorrhoea, can be more common in men who have sex with men (MSM). This isn’t about identity, it’s about awareness and ensuring everyone knows how to stay protected and get regular check-ups.

Similarly, women who have sex with women (WSW) can still pass infections like bacterial vaginosis (not an STI), herpes, HPV, and chlamydia between partners through direct contact or shared toys. Using barriers such as dental dams, condoms on toys, and gloves can help reduce risk.

Regular Testing = Self-Care

Getting tested isn’t about mistrust, it’s about looking after your health and your partner’s.
Regular STI testing helps you catch infections early (often before symptoms appear) and prevents passing them on.

Free, confidential testing is available from Essex Sexual Health Service, and you can even order a home test kit if that’s easier for you.

👉 Order a free STI test or find your nearest clinic here.

Let’s Talk About Stigma

Sometimes, people in same-gender relationships don’t get offered STI testing as often as they should, or they assume they don’t need it.
That’s why open, honest conversations are key. Whether you’re gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, or queer, your sexual health matters and you deserve inclusive, non-judgemental care.

Safe Sex for Everyone

Here are some simple ways to reduce your risk:

Use condoms or dental dams during oral and anal sex. For under 25s, order free condoms via the eC-Card.
Clean and cover sex toys between uses or partners
Get regular STI checks
Consider vaccinations like HPV, hepatitis B, MenB and Doxypep.
Talk openly with your partner about testing and protection

We’re Here to Support You

At Essex Sexual Health Service, we offer free, confidential, and inclusive services for everyone, no matter your sexuality or gender identity.

Whether you’re looking for testing, contraception, or advice, our team is here to help you take control of your sexual health with confidence.

👉 Find out more or book an appointment here.